At home level you have all created that which you say you detest--and, having created it, you have chosen it.
This is an advanced level of thinking, and it is one which all Masers reach sooner or later. For it is only when they can accept responsibility for all of it that they can achieve the power to change part of it.
So long as you entertain the notion that there is something or someone else out there "doing it" to you, you disempower yourself to do anything about it. Only when you say "I did this" can you find the power to change it.
It is much easier to change what you are doing than to change what another is doing.
The first step in changing anything is to know and accept that you have chosen it to be what it is. If you can't accept this on a personal level, agree to it through your understanding that We are all One. Seek then to create change not because a thing is wrong, but because it no longer makes an accurate statement of Who You Are.